Love- A woman’s whole existence

Love is necessary for all human survival and it seems that females have a great capacity to love – both to give and to receive it. For example, a woman’s great capacity to love surfaces when she picks up needle and thread to mend the tear in the shirt. When she prepares a meal, her love mingles with the food. When she rises for two o’clock feeding, she does so with love. When she dresses the baby, love is the crowning drive. When she frosts a birthday cake, love shines through. When she feeds a stray kitten at the back door, she has tapped her love resource. When she gazes romantically into the glow of a warm fireplace, it symbolizes her love.

A woman’s capacity to love can draw the very best for a man – so inspiring him that he may lay aside a life of crime. Her love can spark hope and renewed trust in a man – even making him feel wanted, worthwhile, important and almost great. The wave of her hands as he leaves in the morning and her warm greeting when he arrives at home at night evidence her love. When his nerves are shattered and signs of exhaustion surface, her love can comfort him. When discouragement crushes him and his hopes and dreams have crumbled, she can help him build new ones.

The world needs the gentle, loving and affectionate touch of a woman and the love within her merely awaits the right man to tap its fountain of warmth and affection. But women also have a great capacity for love. Not only are they capable of sharing vast amounts of affection but they also have a large capacity to absorb love in return. And the key to her own storehouse of love lies within the hands of man who offers to her marital happiness and emotional security by returning that deep affection.

Often before marriage, when a young man woos a woman, he persists night and day with loving words and tender deeds. But once he has won her as a bride, he often fails to recognize her intense need to feel loved on a day-to-day basis for the rest of her life.

Because of her capacity for affection, daily expressions of romantic love are vital to a human’s existence. It is the key to her self-worth, her satisfaction with married life and her sexual responsiveness. If a man feels trapped in a bored, tired marriage, he might look to himself for part of the answer. By consistently and thoughtfully expressing romantic love, many men could melt even the most frigid wife.

One bewildered husband complained of not being able to understand his wife. “I have given her everything she wants and needs. We have a custom-built home in the best town, and the whole bit. I’m a faithful husband who doesn’t drink or beat the kids. But she says she’s so miserable and I can’t figure out why!” This man didn’t realize that his wife would trade the custom-built house and all its conveniences for a few affectionate words from him. These things do not make a woman feel cherished but being somebody’s sweetheart does.

Many men are nearly totally unaware of a woman’s need for romantic love, because for centuries, society has focused on women meeting the sexual needs of their husband. It might even be that some men would settle for a business arrangement of sorts in marriage as long as it included meals, housekeeping, hostessing and sexual privileges as the occasion called for them. Romance might be an added benefit but certainly not a requirement.

Not so with a woman! Such a relationship would drive her wild with frustration. She must have something more meaningful. She yearns to be someone special to her husband - to be cherished, respected, appreciated and loved. Only recently has it surfaced that a woman’s needs for emotional  fulfillment is ever bit as pressing as is the male’s need for sexual release. It is as unjustifiable for a man to ignore his wife’s need for romantic love as it is for her to deny him his sexual urges.

This explain why a homemaker spends so much time thinking about her husband during the day, why an anniversary is more important to her than it is to him and why she feels so frustrated when her husband forgets such courtesies. It also explains why a woman constantly “reaches” for her husband when at the end of the day he gets home and settles comfortably behind the newspaper or in front of the television.

Emotional security is the ultimate goal in woman’s life. Therefore, many a woman continually seeks reassurance from her husband by asking him to do something for her that she could easily do for herself. His willingness serves as a measure of his love and regard.

Sometimes, a woman expects her husband to do what she wants done without being asked because she sees this as an evidence of even a greater degree of love for her. Consequently, she may not always tell him what she really wants done. And if he fails to do what she desires, she becomes indignant.

Sometimes, a wife may deny that she wants what she actually does want. If her husband takes her at her word, she feels disturbed. She rationalizes that she is so important to her husband that he should understand and meet her desires, regardless. For example, misunderstandings often occur in the bedroom as a result of such female behavior. He makes sexual advances and she widraws.

In an effort to be considerate of her wishes, he turns over and tries to sleep. At this point, she might cry or nurse hurt and angry feelings. Why? She assumes that she should be so irresistibly attractive that her husband will persist in his efforts despite all the obstacles she puts in his way. If he doesn’t insist, she concludes that he doesn’t love her enough and her emotional security becomes threatened.

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Love your mates…

From the grib to the grave, we all reach out for someone to love us and for someone we can love. Indeed, love is necessary for survival. Without it, we lose the will to live; our mental and physical vitality lessens; resistance lowers and fatal illnesses can result. When we experience love, we glow a radiance that affects us physically, mentally, socially and spiritually.

For the lack of love, thousands commit suicide each year. Another multitude flock to the divorce courts to free themselves so that they can begin their search for love again. Mental hospitals hold many who, for the want of human affection have slipped beyond the reach of sanity. Battered and neglected children suffer marked signs of neurosis and psychosis. Research has shown that infants who lack a close, affectionate relationship with their mothers not only reveal signs of emotional disturbances but are physically dwarfed as well. Within the homes for senior citizens sit thousands of aged fathers and mothers – unnoticed, unloved and dying a tear at a time for want of affection.

When love fails, marriages fall into ruins and impossible frustrations deluge those involved and those around them. Such emotional pressure results in juvenile delinquency, adult crime, alcoholism and various forms of drug addiction. Finally, the attempt to destroy one’s self may end this ruinous cycle. “It is love that spins the universe and when we fail to use love properly, all life suffers.”

The truth is, we all crave love in huge quantities and sometimes it seems that we can never get enough. Love is, in fact, the single most important force contributing to our total well-being. Impelled by its motivating power, we can forge ahead through life’s bitterest moments and withstand insults and cruelty.

We must be realistic about such wishes, however, for it is unlikely that we will ever be loved as completely as we might wish to be. Anyone expecting unqualified love all the time expects more than is humanly possible from another person. Furthermore, it is only realistic to recognize that – right or wrong – society demands a certain standard of performance before it deems us lovable or even acceptable.

DaY_DreAMInG…

          Way back 2002, I was in the stage of Camp Jamindan Elementary School, speaking in front of my fellow graduates and with the parents. I have mixed emotions, I don’t know what I really feel that moment. All I know is “I’m proud of myself!”. After six years of struggling, sleeping late in the night to study lessons and waking 3 am in the morning to review what you had studied last night, skipping the breakfast to avoid being late and avoiding peers to concentrate in your studies, it ended with a reward…A reward which I can really be proud of. Wow!!!! it was really a great achievement for me to graduate my elementary education as Class Valedictorian. You know…the feelings are very unexplainable. (Kung magkabata na kamo, bantayi gid maayo para ma’feel nyo man kung ano na’feel sang parents ko pag’graduation ko!!!KAPAL…PERO TUOD MAN KAG)

          There are instances that I am daydreaming, standing and speaking in front of graduates again, not to speak my gratitude speech but to inspire them with a message from my heart! Advising as a professional already..hahaha..I hope so that one of these days, I will be a professinal…(wish ko lang talaga!)

          If ever that I will be given this opportunity, I will keep on their minds how important really EDUCATION is! That they have to value their studies and have some sacrifice for their success in the future. Studying is not just going to school every weekdays, not just to pass all the quizzes and exams of your teachers, not just to pass the projects required but living what you have studied. Use all the knowledge you gain from school in your daily lives. I pity those parents who have an intelligent children but disgusting. It simply shows that they don’t use what they had studied particularly in Values Education. I admire those who not so good in class but have the guts in life because it simply shows that inspite of their lack in academics, they have their opinions and plans in life. (Hehehe… my parents are so lucky to have me!!!But am not that lucky to have them. Know why???Secret…hahaha…Pati ah, joke lang!)

           Hai…here I am again..dreaming and dreaming all over again!  hehehe…if you will raise your own family in the future, take good care of your child and let them reach the goals you haven’t reached. I know that it will made you happy. Give them the love that your parents haven’t give to you.(Sa iba lang yah nga daw la kabatyag pagpalangga sang parents nila!!!)

Sarili’y di maintindihan..

Sino nga ba ako para magreklamo?

Sa kahirapang natatamo ko

Isang nilalang lamang mula sa abo

Ngunit mga pangyayari sa sarili’y di mapagtanto

Sarili’y di maintindihan

Lalo na ang nararamdaman

Puso’y di mapagbigyan

Sapagkat natatakot na masaktan

Talento’t kaalaman ay sapat na

Ngunit may ibang bagay na sadyang di maintindihan pa

Pang-iinsulto at panlalait ay natikman na

Dahilan sa pisikal na anyong sa aki’y nakikita

Maraming pagsubok ang dumating na

Ngunit isa ma’y walang nagpatumba

Tanging Diyos na may likha

Ang gabay ko sa twina

Hanggang ngayo’y nagtatanong

Anong buhay ang kasasapitan

Ang tanging alam ko lamang

May Diyos akong kinikilala at sasambahin

magpakailanpaman

Siya ang aking gabay..

 Kapatagan, kagubatan, kalawakan at karagatan

Tanging ikaw ang may lalang

Tao, hayop at mga halaman

Iyong nilikha sa isang iglap lamang

O Ikaw ang kinikilalang Ama ng sanlibutan

Sapagkat kami’y iyong inaalagaan

Hindi hinahayaang kami’y mahirapan

Tanging pinaparamdam ay kaginhawaan

Ngunit mga tao’y sadyang makasalanan

Sinuway mga utos mo nang walang pag-aalinlangan

Kung kaya’t ngayo’y nahihirapan

Sa mga unos ng buhay na pinaparamdam

Mga tao nawa’y matauhan

Kapamilya, kapuso, kabarkada o maging sino ka man

Bata, matanda, babae, lalaki o maging ano ka man

Tayo’y magbago, magsisi at magtulungan

Sa mga oras ng kapighatian

Upang ang maylikha ay masiyahan

Sapagkat tayo’y nagmamahalan

Nalilito…nalilito…

Nalilito kung bakit ako nagkakaganito

Dati nama’y walang nadamang pagkalito

Nasanay na sa relasyong malayo sa isa’t isa

Ngunit nang ika’y makilala

Puso’t isip ko’y hindi na mabahala

Ang gusto lagi’y kasam’t kayakap ka

Nagseselos kapag nalamang may kasama kang iba

Nagagalit kapag may ibang pangalang binabanggit ka

Nalulumbay kapag boses mo’y hindi marinig

Naiiyak kapag maalala mga sandali nating kay saya

Tinuruan mo ang pusong magmahal

Kung kaya’t ako ngayo’y nahihirapan

Sapagkat malayo ka, O aking mahal

Gayunpaman, pag-ibig mo’y nararamdaman

Kahit pa na tayo’y hindi magkasama, O aking mahal

Nalilito..nalilito..ang puso ko

Kung bakit ganito

ang nararamdaman ng pusong dati’y bato

Pangarap ka sa twina

gusto ka nang makasama

O bakit nga ba nagkakaganito

Siguro nga’y mahal ka nang talaga ng puso kong ito…

Colonial Mentality(Oration)

It was a very different Sunday that opened my mind to how far the Filipinos have gone. On that same day, my friend and I went shopping. While she was busy choosing the groceries she needed for her new recipe, I decided to roam around and look for my own necessities. While roaming around, I saw a mother and a child with loads of groceries. But what caught my attention was the facial expression of the mother: She seemed to be angry and scolding her child and that tempted me to listen to them in discrete manner. Would you like to know what I heard? The mother was scolding her child simply because the child did not want those imported chocolate bars and candies.H ow shameful of the mother! What was she trying to prove? Why did she have to scold her child for such a reason? What’s so nice about those imported chocolate bars? Anything so special about them? Anything so unique and different about them?

Yes, Ladies and gentlemen, we Filipinos cling to the fact that Foreign countries are far better than our own country and believed that  foreign countries’ products are the one’s we ought to possess and utilize.

Indeed! Foreign countries are better than our own country. But Ladies and gentlemen, can’t we just have that nationalism we Filipinos supposed to have? You are a Filipino and whatever your beloved country produces, you should be proud of it and be satisfied. Ladies and gentlemen, if We Filipinos, You and I will take pride in patronizing our own products, the aspirations and goals of our fellow filipino who wish and struggle to produce better goods will surely not go to waste. They will surely strive more to make better goods. We really can’t be like those foreign countries in just a short span of time, but at least we’ve tried our best and took the initiative and opportunity of improving ourselves. We have to persevereto attain our goals and keep on reminding ourselves to pursue that goal for our countrie’s betterment.

One more thing that we should think of…Our ancestors handed over to us a very precious heirloom, culture accompanied with values such as the bayanihan spirit, hospitality to visitors, care for those in need, faith to God and etc. Ladies and gentlemen, if only these great Filipino cultures and values would be planted deep into the very nucleus of everyone’s heart, evil things such as envy, avarice, hatred, pride, lust and corruption will surely be eliminated.

My dear Filipinos, how would you like to be considered strangers in your own native land?

Hey! Think success and you will be success..

Those who fail, follow the laws of failure.
Those who succeed, follow the laws of success.

It is impossible to reach success with a scheme of failure thoughts in your mind.
It’s impossible to have good health with a scheme of illness thoughts.

Your behavior is directed by your thoughts. Thoughts of failure, disease, loneliness and fear push you into a behavior which leads you directly to fail, become ill, feel lonely and fearful!

You can deny this principle or fight against it, you can believe it is not true or it doesn’t apply to you, but you will never be able to escape from it.

These principles govern all creation, also the creation of your life. The experiences of your life start in your head. And it’s exactly there where your power lies : in your thoughts!

The universe will give you health, if you learn to think in terms of health, not illness.
You will have success if you think in terms of success, not failure.

Everything you think about repeatedly will manifest one day or another. So why not think of what you want, instead of what you don’t want? >Either way, you will get what you asked for! So ask for good things by thinking of good things.

If you have an appointment with the dentist and you are afraid, do this : picture yourself in the dentist chair, visualize a great white light enveloping you, and say : “Only healing hands touch me”. Picture yourself there in the future having a good relaxing time, totally safe in the hands of someone who helps you to heal from a pain at your teeth.

If you have an appointment for a job interview, picture yourself there in the room. What clothes do you wear? How is your hair? What perfume did you choose that morning? Visualize yourself filled with confidence. You talk fluently, you are sure of yourself and your talents are obvious.

You have a visit from your parents? You’re exhausted only by the idea? Change your idea! Picture yourself inviting your parents, opening the door, being calm and open-minded, spending a wonderful time with them. See yourself talking with your parents, they are listening, you listen to them, you stay centered on yourself, you are able to stay yourself in their presence. You feel how you love them and you feel their love for you.

Try this and see what happens! It’s all in the mind!

It’s in our thoughts we create our life. Even if you’re not conscious about this process, you use it anyway all the time. Every moment you have an idea in your head about what is going to happen. Or you think about something from your past, which you project on your future. You always have ideas in your head. Now that you know your thoughts create your life, which thoughts do you choose? Those who you want to see manifested? Take care of your thoughts, and the rest will follow!

To end or not to end a relationship..

You’re wondering if you want to stay with your partner. You feel lonely, misunderstood, frustrated, and you’re not sure how to change that. His behavior confuses you. Most of the time he’s angry, but sometimes he’s very kind. He doesn’t help you with the household very often, but this morning he did put the garbage out. He doesn’t seem to care much about your work, but yesterday he suddenly asked if you like your job. He’s always out with his friends, but now he surprised you with a romantic dinner.

You’re trying hard to figure out whether it’s better to stay or to leave, but you’re not making any progress. The more you think about it, the more confused you are. You are losing sleep, and the sleep you do get is patchy and restless. You’re swinging back and forth between staying or leaving. One moment you’re convinced he’s a bad choice and you’d better leave him, but the next moment you get anxious and afraid that you won’t manage on your own. You are looking for reasons to stick it out, telling yourself that “it’s not that bad, he doesn’t drink, my sister’s husband is much worse,” or “I have to compromise, everybody has to bear his cross, perfect relationships don’t exist,” and so on.

These one-liners won’t help you out, not even a tiny bit, and neither will all of your friends’ opinions. Every friend you share your problem with will offer you their own particular piece of advice, according to his or her current situation and belief system.

You are at a loss. What to do? Where to turn? Your head can’t help you because, as a logical executive, your brain is not equipped to resolve problems of the heart. Your brain can’t get you out of this terrible gridlock, simply because it’s a heart matter. You won’t need your brain functions until after having come to a decision.

How can you hear what your heart is telling you? How can you be sure you’re making the right decision? Follow the advice below and find out!

Rather than focusing on your problems, instead focus on your mission on Earth. Rather than obsessing over your relationship and desperately trying to find a solution, instead concentrate on yourself and on the reason of your being here on Earth. Occupy yourself with your life goals. You don’t have any? Then setting up your goals will be the first step to take! You don’t know what you are living for? Then this will be your first priority: to find out who you are, why you are here and what your specific mission here on earth is about.

Focus on yourself and your mission. If you are not clear about your mission here on Earth, then start by actively searching for your purpose. Find out! Grab a book or an Internet course and discover your reason of being on Earth here and now.

You already know your mission? Then increase the focus on your personal goals and do all it takes to achieve them. You don’t know how to do this? Learn it! There are plenty of courses available on the Internet or in any library, that will guide you step by step towards the realization of your dreams.

So stop focusing on your relationship, stop driving yourself crazy running around in circles and get to work at what really matters in life: you, your mission, your passion, your specific talents and what you came here to do. I can assure you that as you focus on what really matters, very soon you will acquire a new, clear perspective on everything in your life, including your relationship.

A good relationship is one that supports you in the pursuit of your mission and dreams. A bad relationship is one that disregards your dreams, keeps you from them, or laughs at you when you set out to achieve your goals.

Don’t focus on your partner or your problems. Focus on your talents, discover them, develop them, and offer them to the world. Let’s say you are wondering whether you will stay with your partner. Well, instead of torturing yourself with this question, ask yourself what you are here for, and find that out first! What excites you? What did you like to do as a child? What gives you an energy boost? Which activity feels natural to you? What is it that you accomplish without effort? Go do it! Attend workshops that further develop your talents. Become an expert in what you are already good at. If you don’t know what that is, then now is the time to go find out!

Focus on your mission and see what happens to your relationship.
A good relationship will help you on your way.
A bad relationship will try to hold you back.

my article about Love to yourself and to the others..

Love is taking care of yourself first. Love is taking responsibility for your own well-being and your own emotions.

Once you have learned to love yourself, once you dare to do what you like doing, once you are following the voice of your heart, you will radiate joy and satisfaction. This beam, or charisma, is automatically passed on to others and they will feel attracted to you.

It is like a cup that is overflowing. What is your cup filled with? Is your cup “filled” with emptiness, (self) hate, envy, doubts, intolerance or fear? Well, in that case it will be emptiness, (self) hate, envy, doubts, intolerance or fear that you are passing on to others.

To love is to make sure your own cup is abundantly filled with love, beauty, well-being, satisfaction, joy and enthusiasm, and to let your cup flow over into other people’s lives.
If you expect someone else to fill your cup, then you are entangled in a painful illusion. This kind of relationship is sadly not about love but rather about a power struggle, control, fear and envy.

To love somebody is to first make sure you yourself are feeling good, and then to radiate out this positive state of being and offer it to the other as a free gift.

To the one I admire Here in school…

Everytime I see your face

My heart jumps into another place

Everytime I see you smile

My heart feels something i can’t deny

You’re like an angel who suddenly appeared

singing sweet music in the air

my surroundings was colorful and clear

that only happens when you are near

I wish you’re here by my side

that’s the way I feel inside

You’re the air that makes me survive

and makes me strong and alive.

My Oration piece during Captesa!!!

     Education is important for every individual in a nation…It plays a vital role to change the state of a country. No country could bring a revolution in it unless everybody are educated enough to meet the ramifications and challenges. Education makes a man realize something in himself and his goals and the means on how to achieve those goals.

     We are living in the modern age of Science where we found technology in every aspect of life. What makes life so friendly to us are the technology which we use in our ease and comforts. No nation could generate progress unless it promotes technical aspects in its fields. This is the onset of Technical and Vocational Education. The changing face of Technology the world over requires an individual to be specialized in a particular skill. Only a person who is expert in a particular field can get a good job. The Vocational Training Institutes impart specialized and practical knowledge to a person and help them become independent at a particular age. The best part of the institute is that even working people can join the course and even select the timings as per their convenience and nature of job. The institute allows the student to study on line and attend either evening or morning classes. Moreover, financial aid is provided to students who are economically weak.

Ode to Mr. Right_07

The way you smile makes my heart melt

that I could no longer breath

and feel like i have a heart disease

and the only cure is your gentle kiss

the way you walk makes my head turn

as my eyes follow the way where you go

how I wish I could let you stay

and be with me throughout the day

How I wish to hold your hand

and walk with you in an empty island

just the two of us holding each other

dancing under the moon’s bright light

hey! What are you thinking of?

My classmate asked me once

I wonder why everytime I see you

You make me crazy and I can’t let go..